Day Nine

Day Nine:
"...be swift to hear, slow to speak..." James 1:19b

We are often so busy speaking that we don't take time to listen. We are so quick to offer a comment - negative or positive - that we don't really "hear" our husband's heart. Remember: we have two ears and only one mouth. We need to listen more!

As you continue in your 30-day challenge, not speaking negatively and focusing on positive encouragement, hear the Lord's admonition today: "Be swift to hear."

If listening is a real problem for you, play a game with yourself. See if you can listen to your husband for one whole day, only speaking when asked a question. If your husband notices the difference, explain that you are learning to listen more-not only to God, but also to him.

One easy way to express admiration for your husband is to ask a question about something he enjoys, and then listen to his response. If it's an area of personal familiarity, keep asking questions until you learn something you didn't know, then tell him, "Wow, I didn't know that!"


My Take:

One thing I've noticed through this challenge is that in my effort to 'not be negative' I've held in my true feelings on things. That really began causing some distance between us. So, I'm realizing that we can still be (and should be) open and honest with our hubbies without being negative or disrespectful. It's more about tone and choice of words than simply 'holding it in'. Don't get me wrong. Sometimes it's best to not say anything and simply get over it but if it's not that trivial, it's best for the relationship overall if it is discussed in a loving, open, honest way. So, while I stay committed to being positive and not being negative I also commit to being transparent with my husband and not insincere. He deserves to get the real me and all of me.

I hope all is going well for you!